July 27, 2010 Fashion

You march to the beat of your own drum. You do not conform to the mainstream notion of femininity– which makes you even more beautiful. You stand out without trying. You are at ease and comfortable in your own skin. You are not afraid to be you. Stripped of all the unnecessary artifice, you radiate a natural beauty that is all your own — one that doesn’t rely on the approval of others. It’s a fearlessness that is not only respected, but sought after.

To walk down the street and cross paths with one of these women from time to time does something to me on the inside. My heart fills with an admiration and reverence for what seems to be a lack of self-consciousness, and a surplus of self-awareness. Her sense of style ranges from eclectic glamazon, to subdued and offbeat, to simplistic and understated. She is a welcome respite from the long, wavy-haired clones of late, whose lack of originality fails to penetrate the senses. It has always been evident in the media–women whose uselessness for hair turned them into an object of astonishment. So brave these women are–Grace Jones, Alek Wek, Eve Salvail, Amber Rose, etc. — that continue to show us that beauty is not one-dimensional.

In these times where hair, or more specifically long hair, is egregiously worshiped, a woman with less than an inch on her head is an anomaly. Which in most cases, it is. However few, I am nevertheless thankful, because too often the message is that beauty is superficial, self-glamorizing, and grounded in material trappings. So thank you, fly bald chick, for reminding us of the truth — that we are more than our hair.

- Princess Glover

18 Comments

  1. Alicia says:

    This has me beaming right now.

    No hair, don’t care! =D

  2. donna says:

    love it was thinking about this topic the other day, hearing a lot of guys saying they don’t like this look at it makes women look like men. But I have yet to see a woman bald or close cropped that looks like a man, unless she’s trying to. And the absence of hair can show how beautiful a woman truly is.

  3. Yes No Hair and damn sure don’t care!!

  4. josie says:

    AS a bald head girl…. i love this.

  5. binky says:

    I always thought that women who rock a bald head or a close crop was bold, strong and just plain cool because in a society where we are obsessed with hair especially in the black community it is nice to see someone going against the trend.

  6. fr says:

    There is NO doubt about it, when I wore my hair short,I was the most confident I ever was in my life AND I receved hoards of attention. If I could, I would do it all over again. Women in short crops demand attention especially is their style is on point!

  7. au naturale says:

    I wore my hair in a closely cropped cesar for 18 years. My husband and I met in the barber shop. I always loved the confidence that a black woman had to go against mainstream and do the whole “long hair” thing. However, now that I have moved from D.C. to down south, the vibe is tremendously different. Started growing my hair back because I was getting more looks of sympathy than admiration. To make it worse, my hubby asked me to grow may hair. Now that I have some (braids in a bob) and want to cut it all off again, no one wants me to cut it off! I felt my best with no hair. It made people listen to me and not “look” at me. Hair is just way too much trouble.

    • Roqui says:

      Cut it off! If you looked good in it and you were fierce and fly– go back to that place. I moved from Chicago to the south and if you don’t have a perm or a weave these women look at you like you’re crazy. I rock my afro puff with pride! And women who wear bald heads are FIERCE!!!!

  8. Kamika says:

    I am bald now and I’ve never felt freer. My confidence level has gone through the roof! Good article C&C.

  9. vonnie says:

    short hair gets MAD attention. My mom just chopped hers off and can’t even breathe without a compliment being thrown her way! lol

  10. Jazz Tay says:

    I am too recently again bald. I was so stoked to see this posted on BGLH, and I’m glad to be directed to this site, which in just yesterday, i was toying with growing my hair back out. But i love it short, sure i cant wear cute headbands but my head makes my ever so festive cute earrings stand out.
    love the ode to us who know bold, bald, and natural is the way

  11. Tomorrow says:

    @au naturale

    Just do you and don’t let others dictate what you should do. If you like your hair short, wear it that way. If you want to grow it to please your husband, then just do it. Never let anyone define how you should look

  12. kisha says:

    11 months ago when i did my amber rose cut to start my natural journey, it felt like weight lifted off my shoulders. it felt orgasmic to have the water hit my head in the shower. i felt so reborn! the confidence that comes with it is just natural fabness. i have a special respect for women who take the plunge to rock the amber rose becuz it takes a special kinda confidence inside to take notice…oh you WILL be noticed. u see the real, raw beauty of a woman’s face when u cant hide behind bangs and i LOVE it. i will permanently rock my amber rose real soon!

  13. Lydia Saduwa says:

    This has made my day, thank you.

  14. Missy D says:

    This is the first time I’ve seen an article pay homage to Grace Jones and Alek Wek, normally they just talk about Amber Rose. A lot of times I just think about cutting it all off and starting a new. What the worst that could happen? You look too fabulous for people to handle?

  15. Tina says:

    Love this! I remember the first time I shaved my hair into a caesar it was my 19th birthday and my mom gave me money to get my hair done. I come shoulder length hair gone, she replied “I didn’t give you enough money” lol. It felt amazing that was like 13 years ago, nobody was rocking it, I felt so free and sexy a bit androgynous and rebellious all at the same time. Rocked it for a few years grew out a natural, cut it again when my mom died, now it is long and I think about returning to the caesar all the time because it is fierce and sexy all the same. Great read!

  16. clivia says:

    YAY I sooo needed to see this today. A guy told me over the weekend…when i was feeling fly as all get out…YOu would be so HOT if you had long hair. SMH